Three Magic Things: Supporting Conflict and Problem Solving

Thanks to Teacher Susan for sharing some of the discussion from her recent in-service with other local co-op preschool teachers!

These are some tips for supporting conflict resolution for parent helpers in the classroom.

Key: Align yourself with the child. Empathize. You are on their side.


1. Remove the object. If children are arguing over an object, adult says, “I’m going to hold that now.” The removal of the contentious object provides a calm space for the children to check-in with themselves and help each other.

2. Change the volume. Try whispering to change the mood of the interaction, and to let kids know that you’re in it together.

3. Get in close. Physical contact reinforces the idea that you are a team. Together you can come up with a solution.